tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906442678610585215.post2857526031040793458..comments2024-02-26T02:14:00.144-08:00Comments on TransFusion: Photos of My Gender TransitionDr. Cary Gabriel Costellohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14478058791195474381noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906442678610585215.post-55258921567144949562013-06-13T15:04:50.599-07:002013-06-13T15:04:50.599-07:00Hi, I just wanted to tell you how much I am enjoyi...Hi, I just wanted to tell you how much I am enjoying your blog. And I thought this was a great post. Thanks for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906442678610585215.post-88299601980295341582011-09-09T13:24:34.023-07:002011-09-09T13:24:34.023-07:00Thanks for the photo set. You answered most quest...Thanks for the photo set. You answered most questions, about them in the order that I was processing the information. (You even answered my private internal dialog, "But you looked GREAT as a woman!", and I have learned that not every "woman" want to be complimented on that.) <br /><br />But back to photo 3 and 4. In three you look great, happy and full of life, and in 4, by which time you were legally male you look worn, even depressed. And that helped people identify you as male? And YOUNGER? <br /><br />Or is my perception influenced by my MTF leanings and desires (never acted upon)? It is counter-intuitive, to me, at least, that people would see you looking drawn, thin, worn and decide you were a young man, rather than a woman. <br /><br />Life is truly odd, isn't it?Otto Cilindrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18403351994610127592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906442678610585215.post-54831503969989104992011-08-16T23:25:31.103-07:002011-08-16T23:25:31.103-07:00Maddox, thanks for the compliment on the post. As...Maddox, thanks for the compliment on the post. As for the intersex/trans nexus, it's complicated. From a gatekeeping perspective, nobody has wanted to hear about my being intersex (therapists, doctors)--and this has been the experience of my spouse as well. The "Gender Identity Disorder" criteria that are applied by medical and psychological practitioners explicitly exclude intersex people, which may have something to do with it. As for the "regular" people I interact with, cis and trans, the reactions run the gamut. Most people know more about what gender transition is that what intersexuality is. I've faced reactions from "Oh, weird, well, I guess that explains why you transtioned," to "You're making up that intersex thing to justify your transition," to "Oh, that's cool," to "Shouldn't you be true to your real sex and not be a man or a woman?"<br /><br />About disclosure: I didn't disclose my intersex status to the world until I gender transitioned. I think they're equally difficult, but you can't hide the fact that you're transitioning. At least that was my experience.Dr. Cary Gabriel Costellohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14478058791195474381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906442678610585215.post-35793605506339148082011-08-15T15:39:52.169-07:002011-08-15T15:39:52.169-07:00Very interesting thought process behind the timeli...Very interesting thought process behind the timeline. I've been meaning to draw up something similar, with the idea that my appearance oscillated dramatically throughout the years, looking like a different person, yet it's always just me. I'll need to dig up old photos from my parent's house - should be fun.<br /><br />Another couple of unrelated questions <br />- do you find people dismissing or validating with your intersex status? Like "of course he's trans because he didn't have the right body" or "he's not really trans because he's intersex"? <br />- is there a difference in which you disclose? (ie one is easier or harder to disclose).maddoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04724703551253667180noreply@blogger.com